Woman wants divorce due to husband’s laziness

Monsurat Bilaminu has complained bitterly at the Agege customary court over her husband’s lazi­ness urging the court to dis­solve their marriage.
According to the 45-year old woman, her husband has refused to take up a job ap­pointment or do business to earn a living and cater for the family.
She said she has been the one catering for the family for the past 24 years of their mar­riage.

She said her husband has refused to seek employment, and does not want to take up his responsibilities by cater­ing for her and their six chil­dren. “I have been responsi­ble for the children’s upkeep and my husband has stopped supporting me for a long time now. When l married him, I thought he was a gentleman, but he is not. He does not per­form his fatherly duties,” she said.
Mrs Bilaminu also said that because of the financial hardship, she had to distrib­ute the six children to differ­ent families because the re­sponsibility became too much for her.
She then pleaded that the court dissolves the marriage so that she can have peace and start her life all over again.
The husband, 55-year old Abubakar Bilaminu, also told the court that he cannot con­tinue with the marriage any more.
He said that the wife has become too stubborn for him to handle. “She disrespects me and does whatever she likes without consulting me. She said that I am lazy but she has forgotten when I made a con­tainer for her to do her fashion design job and make a living. She started it and stopped and decided to do a business with­out letting me know.
“She takes laws into her hands. I made a container for her to sew clothes, but later re­alized that she had started sell­ing herbal drugs. She travels as far as Ghana and Togo to mar­ket her products and leaves home for weeks without tell­ing me and leaves the children unattended to. She lied that I have not been taking care of my children just because she wants to end the marriage,” he said.
Mr Bilaminu said that he is also tired of the marriage and wants a divorce. He asked the court to grant his wife the di­vorce but grant him custody of the children.
He said, “I want the cus­tody of my children and the court to fix a day their mother can see them. We can arrange a meeting place because I do not want her to come to my house again”.
The President of the Court, Mr P.A. Williams, consequent­ly dissolve the union and asked the couple to live in peace.