{RELATIIONSHIP} My wife made me a celibate – Husband

A 70-year old pastor, Mr Caleb Oluwafi­si has approached the Ojo Custom­ary court to dissolve his 41- year old marriage. He is con­tending that his wife, Titilayo Oluwafisibe has refused to sleep with him for the past 10 years.
According to him, as a pastor, he cannot have any sexual intercourse with any­one else except his wife and since the wife has refused to make love to him, he had been living without sex for 10 years now.

Mr Oluwafisibe told the court that the wife uses sex as a punishment because she feels “I am not taking care of her well. My wife knows that things are really tough for me now and because of that, she punishes me by refusing to have sex with me. But when I had money, she was always happy.
“Since I married my wife in June 1975, it’s been mar­riage and separation in two phases because every situa­tion was determined by what I could offer.
“We were living well un­til 1998 when things became very tough for me. We sepa­rated from 1998-2006 when my church transferred me out to the East.”
Mr Oluwafisibe also said that the wife also “influ­enced our children negative­ly. We always have different opinions on how to train our kids and she stands firm on her opinion and has succeed­ed in getting the children on her side. They do not respect my opinion and we clash be­cause of them.”
The petitioner also said that the issue between him and his wife became so much that he had to set out time to pray for his wife to have a change of attitude towards him.
He said, “I even had a special prayer for my wife for three years to see if God would intervene in the diffi­cult situation and change her personality.
“I want the court to sepa­rate this union so I can move on and enjoy the rest of my life in peace.”
However, the wife, Titi­layo denied all her husband’s allegations. She complained bitterly that her husband does not have compassion for her and doesn’t treat her with love or kindness.
“He calls himself a pas­tor, yet he doesn’t have re­gard for his family. He has really caused so much divi­sion among our children,” she said.
The president of the court, Veronica Willough­by asked the petitioner, Mr Caleb Oluwafisibe to re-eval­uate his decision to dissolve the marriage and think of a more peaceful and amicable way to settle differences in­stead of seeking dissolution. “As a pastor, you should seek peace and not dissolution. I will give you a second chance to go back and reconsider your intention. You both have failed in the training of your children by using them as a point of disagreement; your children are your collective responsibility,” she stated.